I read this article from http://thunhan.wordpress.com – Teacher's personal page Nguyen Vu Thu Nhan – Lecturer in Mathematics for Physics, Department of Physics – City University of Pedagogy. Ho Chi Minh.

4 skills students “could not have”

First day of school, The luggage the freshmen brought along beside the excitement, rejoices are worries, confused by a new environment, vast and challenging.

Many students do not adapt to new living conditions, unable to meet the university's learning methods... fell into a state of disappointment, bored, even fall, drop out of school.

The most effective "weapon" right now is to practice soft skills for yourself, as: time management, group work, presentation ability, convince, listening comprehension skills... Among the above skills, 4 The following skills students "cannot do without".

1. Stress management skills

The university environment is extremely close to social life, with many activities and relationships. Further, Students are active and eager to learn and do not want to miss any opportunity: just went to school, Just participated in Union activities – Festival, just got a part-time job... Or there are students who aren't like that but look at their friends around them and they accidentally get carried away. Every day, every day, "deadlines" are like a wheezing dragon about to breathe fire at them; the fear of being blamed for not completing the work; One plan after another stacked up like a mountain... And one day they walked faster without realizing it. Then, street has "knocked on the door".!

– Learn how to "empty garden": This especially applies to arguments, Group work... That's the way "we" often do in high school classes, The face listened very attentively but went in one ear and then out the other... lost!

– Find/Create a peaceful little corner for yourself: Maybe a favorite song, A good night's sleep cuddling with your favorite pillow, a familiar coffee shop…or a date with old friends. All the things that make you feel at peace and be yourself.

– Press the stop button: When everything comes together at once, you go crazy. Then put your hand on your head and press: "Stop". this time, Look back at your problems and put them in order of which ones you can solve first and which ones you can't do anything about..

2. Leadership skills

This is an extremely necessary skill in studying at university, is a "+" point in scholarship applications and is a requirement for senior positions in many companies, that business!

– Be a good member: Before being a leader, You need to be a good member already. Join a group, pay attention to the leader of that group observing, Learn the good points and avoid the bad points.

– Have the demeanor of a leader: Surely you wouldn't choose a clumsy leader, subservient, It's messy for me and everyone else. So practice your style from the outside to the inside: suitable attire, confident, reputable…

– Practice decision making: The leader is the decision maker. So, Practice making decisions, and once it's "over" it doesn't change. First of all, practice with yourself and then with many people, collective group.

– Practice evaluating other people's strengths and weaknesses: Please choose 10 any of your friends and assess their strengths, their weaknesses.

3. Connect with friends

Communicate, Talking seems "as easy as eating porridge" but in reality it is extremely difficult and needs to be practiced every day. You must practice how to talk and persuade so that people listen attentively and feel what you want to convey..

– Practice speaking: Talk to your friends, with relatives, even with strangers. Don't talk about things: "How are you? What did you do yesterday...?” Think and choose controversial topics, suggest…

– Practice listening: Once a week, or whenever the opportunity arises, listen to your friends, acquaintance of chat, listen to their problems…

– Persuasion skills, debate: Let's start with an everyday thing: bargaining when making a purchase. This way you will get the price you want and practice your convincing skills.

4. Motor, constantly moving

When you fail, encounter difficulty, stress…what will you do? Just want to be alone. Or call someone and confide, complaining but the problem is really solved at the root? It all depends on you, You are the one who can and knows how to face and completely solve problems.

– List 3 your motivation: That might be a maxim you like, an idol you admire, Or your previous failures. Let's list 3 the most important and engraved in their hearts. 1 in his motivations is: “Life isn’t fair but it’s still good”

– Achieve small successes every day: There is no stronger motivation than achieved success. Everyday, Set small goals and achieve them. Each success achieved will give you confidence and excitement to start another success tomorrow.

– Your dictionary doesn't have the word "failure": All your failures are never failures, just a step back, stop, or minor scratches 1 just a little. Let's step back and start again from the same place. Record those "slips" to motivate you later.

Making an effort to practice the above skills as part of your routine is not simple or easy. But the sweet fruits of that training process will help you get high results in study and success in life. Try your best!

Source: Tran Thi Bao Ngoc – Muc Tim Online

(Theo Lession in life)